Confidential Matchmaking Intake

Tell us about you

It only takes a few minutes. Your answers are saved automatically as you go, you can stop after the first part and finish later. Your name and contact details are never shown to potential matches. Fields marked * are required.

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Step 1 of 2 · The essentials

The essentials

Contact details and the basics. This is all we need to get started, you can add the rest later.

First name *

Last name *

Email *

Phone

Gender *

Interested in

Age *

Height *

City / area you live in

What are you looking for? *

Religion / worldview

How did you hear about us?

Did a 4Keeps matchmaker refer you?

Choose your membership

Two ways to join 4Keeps. You can change your mind later.

Network member Free

Join our network at no cost. We'll keep you in mind and may introduce you to one of our clients if you're a great fit. No dedicated matchmaker actively searching on your behalf.

Client Dedicated matchmaker

Get a dedicated matchmaker who actively searches, vets, and reaches out to find people specifically for you, the personal-assistant model. Simple flat monthly plans, no five-figure retainer, and you can adjust or pause anytime.

Pick a monthly plan

Essential$600/mo · 40 hrs Focused$900/mo · 60 hrs Priority$1,500/mo · 100 hrs Not sureWe'll recommend a fit

Some channels have natural weekly limits (for example, LinkedIn caps new connection requests per week), so more hours generally means more channels worked in parallel and faster momentum.

After you submit, our team will reach out to issue your contract and a deposit invoice to get started. You won't be charged anything today.

Background & beliefs

All faiths and worldviews welcome.

How observant are you?

Tradition / denomination (optional)

Faith / spiritual community (optional)

Relationship status

Children

Education

Profession

Income level

Ethnicity

Body type

Do you smoke?

Do you drink?

Myers-Briggs (if known)

LinkedIn or other social links (optional)

Helps your matchmaker verify and get a fuller picture. Never shown publicly.

You & your values

Your hobbies & interests

Five words that describe you

Your views on physical intimacy / pacing

Only used to compare compatibility between people of the Christian faith.

Anything else we should know about you

Personality & lifestyle

A few quick reads on who you are. There are no wrong answers.

Are you more…

Light-hearted vs. serious

Risk-tolerant vs. risk-averse

How much do you travel?

Sibling placement

Diet

Just out of a relationship?

Want coaching services too?

Briefly: your past relationships & why you're single and looking

Your non-negotiables (if any)

What do people love most about you?

Anything else about you we should know? (freeform)

What you're looking for

Leave preferences blank or unchecked to mean "open / no strong preference."

Partner age, min

Partner age, max

Partner height, min

Partner height, max

Preferred partner education

Preferred partner profession (optional)

Open to someone with kids?

Open to dating a Catholic?

Open to someone divorced?

Max distance you'd travel

The vibe / energy you're looking for in a partner

Open to which ethnicities? (none checked = open to all)

Open to which body types? (none = open to all)

Love languages you naturally give (pick up to 2)

Love languages you most like to receive (pick up to 2)

Five words describing your ideal partner

Describe your ideal partner / relationship

Anything else about what you're looking for? (freeform)

Photos * — add 2 to 3 clear, recent photos in this order

1st — headshot (this becomes your profile headshot) · 2nd — full body · 3rd — optional (another headshot or full body). The first photo you add is set as your headshot automatically — you can re-tag any photo below.

Tips for great photos

Use good, even lighting — face a window or shoot outdoors in daylight.
Use recent photos (within the last year) that look like you do now.
Show a genuine smile and a relaxed, natural expression.
Have someone else take them when you can — it always looks better than a selfie.
Include one clear headshot (shoulders-up) and one full-body shot.

Avoid

Selfies, mirror shots, and bathroom or car photos.
Sunglasses, hats, or anything that hides your face.
Group photos — we won't know which person is you.
Screenshots, heavy filters, and blurry or low-resolution images.
Old photos that no longer look like you.

Optional add-ons

Give yourself a head start. Add either of these now and we'll set them up with your onboarding — you won't be charged today.

Intro session with Dr. Lindsay O'Shea

A one-on-one session with our dating & relationship psychologist to set your intentions, spot the patterns to break, and start your search with clarity. Special introductory rate for new members.

~~$200~~ $99Intro offer

Dating app profile review & refresh

A hands-on review and rewrite of your dating app profile — photo selection, prompts, and bio — so you're putting your best self forward everywhere you're searching.

$79

Your progress is saved on this device automatically and when you choose "Save & finish later," so you can return to this page anytime to pick up where you left off. The essentials you submit in step one are recorded as soon as you continue.