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Tips For Success





#1. Be Open Minded



#2: Be Intentional



#3: Be Respectful



When it comes to dating, there are some things to keep in mind as you embark on your journey. Here at 4Keeps, we have a few mandatory criteria, namely--respect the privacy of your match(es) and refrain from any inappropriate or non-consenting sexual behavior. Moreover, to be successful in your pursuit it is important that you get into the right mindset.


Getting in the Mindset:

  • Cultivate the right desires. Does she really need to be a 10? Is him being 5'11.5 really a deal breaker? At the end of the day, we all grow old and shrink.
  • Keep an open mind. Everyone's moving at their own pace. It's not about the state we're at but the direction of our heart.
  • Men: Take risks and be vulnerable so that you can lead effectively.
  • Women: Be confident in who you are.
  • Until you're officially together, treat every potential match with respect as if they were someone else's husband or wife.


The First Date:

  • Choose a location that suits the girl's needs (remember, she's spending the time and money to look pretty in advance and taking on the risk of meeting a stranger).
  • You can offer to pick a girl up, but we suggest planning a central meeting point (for safety purposes...just in case).
  • If sitting down on the date, try to sit on the same side or at 90 degrees rather than directly across from one another. There's a psychology behind this.
  • Ask fun/ borderline ridiculous questions. You don't want the experience to feel like a boring interview.
  • Don't brag.
  • Practice active listening.
  • Be vulnerable.
  • Don't scare them off by talking about marriage and kids right off the bat. Same with religion and politics.
  • NEVER let the girl pay on the first date (I know this is a topic of controversy, but trust us...)
  • If you like a guy, you don't have to kiss on a first date, but you can show your affection by flirting while stroking his arm or touching him somehow (other than an awkward good by hug).


The Afterwards:

  • Remember that the outcome of a first date is not a "yes I will marry you" or "no I will not". Rather, it's a "yes, I'm open to learning more" or "no, this fundamentally could never possibly work". Keep an open mind, relationships take time.
  • If you're still saying no, are you self sabotaging? Take a critical look at yourself and ask if the reasoning for no is a fundamental deal breaker.
  • Don't fall into the common dating app trap of thinking this was just a disposable encounter and onto the next. There aren't THAT many suitable prospects as you think. Plus, you were personally matched for a reason and prayed over.
  • SO if you're open to getting to know that person further, let him or her know...and let them know in the next 24 hours. Don't play it cool. No one likes that.
  • If you're not interested, stay as friends. Who know's what can happen?
  • If you want to talk it over with one of our dating coaches, reach out to our team accordingly.



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21 Fun Questions To Ask On A First Date





  1. If you were to be an expert correspondent on CNN or MSNBC, what would be your field of expertise?
  2. What's the weirdest food you've ever tried, and did you like it?
  3. Do you have any unusual talents or hobbies?
  4. What's the best vacation you've ever been on, and what made it so great?
  5. If you could live in any fictional world, which one would it be and why?
  6. What's the most interesting place you've ever visited?
  7. What's a movie or TV show you can watch over and over without getting bored?
  8. If you could switch lives with any celebrity for a day, who would it be?
  9. What's a bucket list item you hope to check off in the near future?
  10. If you could create your own ice cream flavor, what would it be and what would you name it?
  11. If you could have any job for a day, regardless of qualifications or experience, what would it be?
  12. Do you have a favorite childhood memory that always makes you smile?
  13. What's something you're passionate about that most people might not know?
  14. If you could time travel, would you go to the past or the future, and why?
  15. What's the most memorable concert or live performance you've ever attended?
  16. What’s the most interesting or unusual place you’ve ever slept?
  17. What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled off or had pulled on you?
  18. Do you have any quirky habits or rituals?
  19. What's the most meaningful piece of advice you've ever received, and how has it influenced your life?
  20. If you could live in any historical period for a year, which one would you choose and what would be your occupation?
  21. If you could swap lives with any cartoon character for a day, who would it be and what would you do?


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